Leading Yourself: How to Set Expectations with Your Manager

The Raw Strength of Self-Awareness:

Before you can lead others, you've gotta lead yourself. This means understanding your strengths, weaknesses, values, and what truly makes you tick. It's about recognising your triggers, managing your emotions, and knowing when to push yourself and when to take a step back.

How to Have the Conversation:

1. Choose the right time and place: Don't ambush your manager in the hallway or fire off a demanding email. Schedule a dedicated time to chat, preferably in person or via video call (worst case scenario).

   2. Start with self-awareness: Before the meeting, reflect on your own needs, priorities, and working style. What are your non-negotiables? What are you hoping to achieve?

   3. Be clear and specific: Don't beat around the bush. Clearly articulate your expectations around communication, workload, feedback, and any other relevant areas.

   4.Focus on collaboration: This isn't about dictating terms; it's about finding solutions that work for both of you. Be open to compromise and feedback.

   5.Document the agreement: Once you've reached an understanding, summarise the key points in writing (an email is fine) to avoid any confusion down the track.

Example Conversation Starters:

• "I've been working on improving my work-life balance, and I'd like to discuss how we can best manage communication outside of work hours."

• "I'm keen to take on more responsibility, but I need clear expectations and support to ensure I can succeed."

• "I value your feedback, and I'd appreciate it if we could schedule regular check-ins to discuss my progress and any areas for improvement."

The Ongoing Journey:

Setting expectations is not a one-time event; it's an ongoing process. As you grow and evolve, your needs and priorities will change. Don't be afraid to revisit the conversation with your manager and adjust your expectations as needed.

Remember:

• Lead with empathy: Put yourself in your manager's shoes and consider their perspective.

• Be respectful but assertive: Don't be afraid to stand up for your needs, but do so in a professional and constructive manner.

• Focus on solutions: Work together to find solutions that benefit both you and the team.

By taking the initiative to set clear expectations with your manager, you'll not only create a more positive and productive working relationship, but you'll also demonstrate your commitment to self-leadership and personal growth. And that, my friends, is the foundation for becoming a truly effective leader.